Finding Yourself When You're Feeling Lost

At one point or another, most of us have felt a bit lost in life, like we're floating in a river with nowhere to go or a clear direction. This can happen for so many reasons it could be due to a major life change, daily life becoming monotonous, or simply growing older and questioning our place in the world, it’s a totally natural feeling and we all feel it. 

So, if you're feeling a bit adrift lately, don't worry! You’re not alone. Let's embark on this journey together and explore some ways to find yourself again.

Self-Reflection: 

This isn’t about staring at yourself in the mirror. Take a few moments daily or weekly to write down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Answering questions like, "What truly makes me happy?" or "What do I want to achieve in life?" can open doors to understanding yourself better. Yes, this might should a bit cringy bit it is worth giving it a try. Some people swear by it. 

Travel Solo:

If you can, pack a bag and venture to a new place on your own. This doesn't have to be overseas even a day trip to a nearby town can offer new perspectives. Being in unfamiliar surroundings often forces us to look inward and understand ourselves in a new light. I find even a long bus journey can help me to really think.

Seek New Experiences: Join a class, pick up a hobby, volunteer for a cause, or simply attend local events. New experiences can jolt us out of complacency and reignite passions we never knew we had. They are always worth a try. 

Speak to Someone: Whether it's a therapist, a close friend, or a family member, sometimes speaking about our feelings and fears provides some clarity. They might offer a different perspective that you hadn't considered. It is always worth letting someone in on how we are feeling. 

Meditation and Mindfulness: 

Tuning into the present moment, focusing on your breath, and letting go of clouded thoughts can be truly helpful. If you've never meditated before, there are a sp many apps and YouTube channels to guide you. I like guided meditation I find it the easiest to do. 

Read: 

Books offer glimpses into different worlds, philosophies, and lives. Sometimes, all it takes to understand oneself is to understand others. I know I need to do this one more. 

Set Small Goals: 

Large life goals can be overwhelming. Start with smaller ones like reading a book, exercising, or mastering a new skill. Achieving these can boost your confidence and pave the way for bigger goals. It is ok to start small and build up. 

Nature Time: 

Nature has a soothing, grounding effect. There is nothing more important than getting out in nature. 

Walks in the park, hikes, or simply sitting by a body of water can provide clarity and a sense of belonging. Nature has a strange way of bringing you back to the present. 

Limit Social Media: 

It’s easy to feel lost and compare ourselves when we see everyone’s ‘highlight reel’ on social media. Taking a break can help recalibrate your sense of self. Remember people tend to only show the polished version of themself online. That influencer you think has her shit together actually doesn't and has the same insecurities we all have. It's their job to make you think they don't. 

Revisit Old Passions: 

Think back to what made you happy as a child or teenager. Rekindling those old hobbies or interests might reignite a part of you that you've forgotten. There is nothing more fun than having fun so find your fun again. 

Remember, feeling lost doesn’t mean you're off track. Sometimes, it's life’s way of nudging you to discover a path you wouldn’t have taken otherwise. Every experience, even the confusing ones, adds depth and richness to your life.