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10 Tried and Tested Steps to a More Confident You

 Life has the capacity to be deeply enjoyable and fun and all the other good things that we can experience, but it is conditional. We’re not always in the right frame of mind to live life to the fullest. If we’re going to live our best life, then there are some things that we’ll need: our health (mental and physical), energy, and yes, confidence. We all know how much easier it is to make our dreams come true when we’re feeling confident. Plus, it just allows us to enjoy the world more: everything looks brighter when we’re feeling secure in our skin. 

Of course, how to actually reach this confident state can seem difficult, actually almost impossible sometimes. But if there’s one thing to remember, it’s that a confident version of yourself exists. And in fact, it’s not as difficult as you might think. It’s all about doing many small tasks (rather than waiting for one big, life-changing thing to change everything). In this blog, we’re going to take a look at a bunch of small actions that’ll put you on the right path. 

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A Bit of Perspective

There are many people out there who actually are confident people; they just don’t know it. Or to put it another way, they’re people who should be confident, they just don’t see it. If there’s one thing that is damaging to the world, it’s that people underrate themselves -- and that keeps them in their little small box. If you took an objective look at your life, you’d probably find that there are many reasons for you to feel confident and happy. Of particular note should be how you view your appearance. People typically undervalue their attractiveness level, all because they focus on their (perceived) flaws rather than what they’ve got going for them. Focus on those things instead, and you’ll feel much better.

New Clothes

Is there anything better than leaving home knowing that you’re dressed as well as can be? It’s an instant confidence boost. If you can walk past a mirror and think, “I’m looking good,” then you’ll be on the right path towards having a good day. Of course, dressing well is not guaranteed. There are many things that can influence it, but perhaps the most important aspect is the quality of the clothes. If you’ve been wearing the same old, same old items for too long, then take a look at investing in some new threads. It can be worthwhile paying a little more than normal, such is the difference that high-quality clothing can make. 

Find Your Style

Clothes function as more than just items to preserve our modesty and keep us warm and so forth. They are an extension of our personality. Or at least, they should be. If you’re wearing clothes that you know don’t really reflect who you are, then make some changes. You’ll feel more confident when it feels like people can get an idea of what you’re all about just by looking at you. The process of finding your style can be a journey, but it’s worthwhile taking. If you don’t know where to start, look at simply mimicking other people who have a sense of style that you like. In time, you’ll find that you’ve acquired your own.

Not Trying to Impress 

Moving away from your appearance for a moment, let’s think about your interactions with other people. If you have any level of social anxiety, then it probably impacts your confidence, at least to a degree. Experts are conflicted about whether “faking it till you make it” is an effective strategy for improving confidence, but there are some areas where it is recommended. One is how you present yourself socially. A person lacking in confidence is eager to impress. They want to be liked by others. A confident person doesn’t feel the need to do this. They can just sit back and be themselves. If this area of your life is affecting your confidence, then try this: put the “impress” pressure on the other person. The goal isn’t to make them feel uncomfortable (don’t do that), but just to make yourself recognise that you don’t have to go out your way to make other people like you, or to connect with them. If it happens, it happens. You’ll find that this new self-assuredness in social environments can do wonders for your confidence.

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Upgraded Beauty Routine

There are some things that’ll have a huge influence on your appearance, which means that they in turn have a huge influence on your confidence. Even though your appearance is not the most important thing in the world, it would be wrong to think that it’s entirely unimportant: it’s not. So if you’re looking to nudge things in the right direction, why not look at mixing up your beauty routine? If you’ve been stuck with the same old makeup style for longer than you can remember, then take a look at some YouTube tutorials and find a look that suits you. 

Items for your Figure

There are some things that can be considered “obvious” when it comes to improving your confidence. Some are a little more subtle. One such example are the things you wear that can’t be seen on the surface. While it’s fine to wear unremarkable initiates, you’ll find that you feel a lot more confident if you’re wearing lingerie, especially if they accentuate your natural body shape. More than anything, high-quality underwear will just have you feeling good throughout the day.

To the Salon

Along with your makeup and clothes, it’s your hair that has the biggest impact on your appearance. Most people are pretty adept at styling their hair well, but if you’re trying to push your confidence in the right direction, then that’s not enough: you’ll want to take things further. A trip to the salon can be so beneficial that it should be prescribed by doctors. Providing you’ve gone to a stylist who knows what they’re doing, you’ll find that you leave on cloud nine. If you can pick up a few tips and tricks from professional hairstylists, you’ll be able to keep the look -- and the confidence that accompanies it -- for longer than usual, too.

Work Up a Sweat

Exercise improves your confidence in many ways. For starters, it helps to keep your body look trim and toned. But perhaps more important is the mental fortitude you need to work up a sweat even when you don’t want to. We gain confidence by overcoming our mental barriers and doing things anyway. When you take up exercise, you’ll experience that on a regular basis. There’ll be times when you want to give up, but you’ll push yourself to workout for another ten minutes. There’s power in that. Once you’ve finished, consider a cold shower. This isn’t appealing but can do wonders for your confidence, energy, skin, and more. As with the exercise, you’ll have to force yourself to get into the shower sometimes, but you’ll do it anyway -- and that brings confidence. 

Free Yourself From Toxins

There are some things that are presented to us as normal, but which are actually harmful. Take alcohol, for instance. This is something that the majority of the population drink regularly. But is it as good for us as we think it is? Depending on the type of alcohol that you’re drinking, you could find that it’s having a negative impact on your mood, your skin, your energy, and more. If you’ve never taken a break before, consider giving it up for a month or so. The truth is that within a couple of weeks without alcohol, you’ll likely have noticed that your mood and confidence has improved. You might decide to have the occasional drink after the month is up, but it’s unlikely that you’ll go back to your pre-break levels once you’ve seen the many benefits. 

Keep Moving Forward

Finally, remember to keep moving forward. If you think back to when you felt the most confident, you’ll probably find that it was when you were challenging yourself and making things happen. When we stop doing those things, it’s normal for our confidence to take a bit of a hit. While it can be easier to pursue challenges when we’re young, it doesn’t mean that they’re impossible to make happen when we’re older. They’re not. Looking ahead, why not focus on seeing what you’re capable of? Just deciding to do that will give you confidence (since it’s not an easy decision to make), and it’ll be even more profound if you pull your challenge off. 


When we’re low in confidence, it can feel like something that we’ll never have. It just feels too far away. However, never forget that there are plenty of things you can do to push things in the right direction. While the effects of your actions can take some time to sink in, once they have, you’ll find that you’re riding high with confidence -- and it’ll happen before you know it. 

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